I enjoy fetishes for bondage, leather, boots and uniforms. Safe and sane. I like long, slow scenes. I like to kiss and cuddle, too, and I'm not big on most rough stuff.

I especially enjoy tying a guy up and inflicting pleasure on his helpless body. I'm pretty flexible, but I especially enjoy something variously called edging/cum control/tantric massage. I'm not big on percussive or abrasive activities, and if you're looking for serious pain you're likely to be disappointed.

No experience necessary, I take equal enjoyment in introducing novices and playing with old hands. I'm looking for friendly intelligent guys who respect themselves and others. Common sense and a sense of adventure required, not to mention a sense of humor. Imagination and creativity a plus. I'm not particular about age, size, or body type, but some facial hair and a masculine bearing are (almost) mandatory. Safer sex is mandatory, and I don't drink or drug.

I try (sometimes with less than 100% success) to bring the whole of my self to the table, even in casual encounters, and prefer spending time with men who don’t split their sexuality off from the rest of their being. That said, I‘m in a happy open LTR (20 years and going strong) and clear about my boundaries and priorities, so if you’re looking for a possible Mr. Right I suggest you check out the next profile.

Outside the bedroom my interests are wide and eclectic enough that I generally can find some common ground with most curious and inquiring minds that love what life has to offer. If you want some specific points of departure, try: nature, hiking, cooking, wrestling (the sport, not the theatrical diversion you see on TV), dance, classical music, movies, architecture and the arts. Gardening is my vocation.

I try not to take myself too seriously, and appreciate this in others. I think that describing your own character in general terms is an exercise in inanity, but if someone held a gun to my head and demanded that I try, I’d go for: Quiet, sceptical, unsentimental without falling into cynicism, unconventional to the point of eccentricity, sharp-witted though sometimes slow to make up my mind, I value honesty highly, and I despise lying even more than meanspiritedness.